Hey Friends! Time for some real talk.
Situation: When you’re looking for that perfect suit but you’re plus size and too tall for the industry, oh, my friends, the struggle is so real!
I don’t know how many times in recent years I’ve walked into stores (or ordered online), grabbed the biggest size available, and tried to make it work. I rolled up my sleeves because they were too short. I avoided pants because, well, too short. And then I just switched to dresses only, which is cool, but who doesn’t want variety in their wardrobe?
Since 2025 is my year to FLOURISH, that meant I had to switch things up and invest in myself. The confidence that comes from wearing something made specifically for you is so powerful. I have no idea what “size” my custom-made suit is, and it feels great! I learned so much about myself during this process. Here were some of my takeaways:
- Please stop apologizing for taking up space. Your body deserves clothes that celebrate it, not hide it. When you walk into that fitting room or consultation, own your presence! You’re a paying customer investing in quality, and you deserve that same energy back.
- Bring your whole self to the process and don’t focus only on the one event you’re shopping for. Think about your lifestyle, your personality, your favorite colors that make you feel amazing. A custom piece should reflect ALL of you, not just the “professional” version.
- Definitely factor in cost and budget for alterations. Even with custom work, minor tweaks happen. Build that into your investment mindset because when something fits like it was made for you (because it was!), those final adjustments are pure magic.
- Document your journey – take photos, keep notes about what works and what doesn’t. You’re building a blueprint for future purchases, and that knowledge is power. Plus, celebrating those wins along the way is essential because once you nail down how something fits, it’s a game changer!
- Who are your people? Whether it’s a tailor who gets it, a stylist who sees your vision, or friends who hype you up, please surround yourself with a supportive village of folks who understand that looking good is about feeling good, period. I’m so grateful for Charlotte Felt and Sheika Fordham-Mancle for walking me through this rediscovery of self and for always keeping it cute and professional. I love my new Tom James Company suit!
Listen, the industry is slowly catching up, but you don’t have to wait for them. You’re writing your own rules now, and that suit is just the beginning!
What’s your suited up story?
